Time: Sat Nov 02 19:10:46 1996 To: marmstrong <marmstrong@snowcrest.net> From: Paul Andrew Mitchell [address in tool bar] Subject: Re: around today? Cc: Bcc: At 05:46 PM 11/2/96 -0800, you wrote: > >>>>In the meantime, please don't be hard >>>>on yourself. I picked up just a little >>>>bit of self-depreciation. Am I right? >>> >>>It is my way of pre-apologizing for >>>unintented relationship faux pas. This is an oxymoron, yes? "Pre-apologizing" is like saying, "You're not going to like this," and then I can say, "How would you know?" That's all the fun of a new relationship, don't you think? Being spontaneous and knowing the other can join in. >> >>I did not feel that way at all. >>That is why I said what I did; >>you are doing this to yourself. >> >Yes. That is entirely correct. Now you have grown out of that faux pas already. I have decreed it so. > >Here's an analogy: I have a program >called Tuneland with Howie Mandel >that came with my computer. It is a >children's program with cartoon animals >and silly songs in Howie's voice. I find >it to be very obnoxious and irritating. > >When I did a clean up of my memory, I tried >to remove old "Tuneland." Apparently it has >hidden memory files and some of them are >necessary for the proper function of other >windows programs. I erased what I could, but >when I start up windows I get an error message >on FMedia (probably has something to do with >MPEG.) I don't know how to fix it so I just >hit ok in acknowledgement and go on. > >Once in a while I will hit the wrong button and >Tuneland will start up and then freeze. There is >no way to get out of it except to shut down and >restart. I don't want to go to Tuneland. I just >have to remember not to hit the wrong button. > >I haven't discovered any other programs that are >affected by my alterations to Tuneland, but it >will probably pop up unexpectedly or cause a >malfunction when I run a program that I rarely >use. Were you referring to the notion of "tapes," in which a behavior pattern becomes ingrained, and runs itself whenever it is energized by some external event? You know, our biological make-up is governed by these long pre-coded sequences, so you should not feel that this is something unusual or aberrant. Take a close at DNA, and you will see exactly what I mean. The function of reverse transcriptase is to initiate a long replication sequence, down at the building-block level of life. > >I have often been criticized >>of "rushing" things in relationships. >>Maybe a better model is organic >>biology, in which flowers bloom >>in their own good time. Do you >>like flowers? I love daffodils >>and plumeria, in any order. >> >Not at all. I was speeding along right >there with you. Thought I was, perhaps, >rushing too fast because I was enjoing it >so much. > >(I know what you meant last night >about needing a nap. I once had a >group of kittens that needed to find >homes. They were barricaded in the >kitchen with a board. They would meow >and try to climb the barrier all night >until they would literally fall over in >a dead sleep. I tend to get that way >when I'm excited.) > >>>Maybe I need a code word like "bookmark" >>>- meaning, taking care of business will >>>get back to you. >> >>check. >> >> "Reality check" - >>>meaning, hold on there you're going too >>>fast and we need to straighten out >>>a miscommunication or assumption. >> >>We call it "pushing the stack" >>in computer science; this means >>that you hold the current routine, >>and branch to a different routine, >>and then return when you finish the >>latest routine. "Returning" is called >>"popping the stack". Imagine an >>in-box placed on a scale, and each >>new document pushes the lower ones >>down by equal amounts, so the top >>documents is always at the same >>elevation. >> >Sort of like "sidebar" in journalism >or "link" in html? > >One structure I like is to strive >>for 50/50 time: you get 50% of the >>clock time in a conversation, and I >>get 50% of the clock time in a >>conversation. The one whose time >>it is, can yield to the other, but >>only by choice. Wanna play? >> >Yes. I think that is what I was originally >trying to get at. I was having just too >good a time feeling the focus of attention >and felt like a hog. You don't sound like a hog, and you don't look like a hog, (I am relying here on your own description of yourself), so, you cannot be a hog, no way!! If it walks like a duck, and flies like a duck, and swims like a duck, IT MUST BE A DUCK! >> >>I saw a fantasy picture of you in a >>clothing advertisement in today's >>local paper. Would you mind if I >>were to scan it and email it to you? >> >No, but how do I read it. (Also, keep >in mind that I never was the Prom >Quenn, cheeleader category. (To my >mother's vocalized disappointment - >she once tried to call me Marcie, but >it never fit.) Also, remember that I am >46 (almost 47) and, although I am amazingly >virtually wrinkle-free, things have shifted >some from my younger days. i.e. may I >suggest that you don't develop unrealistic >expectations. That way you won't be >disappointed if we should ever manage to >meet. I wasn't thinking "if" but "when". I hope you don't mind if I am rather forward. After this introduction, meeting is a must, don't you agree? We have a chance here to become lifelong friends, and that is a chance I will not pass up, not for all the earthly riches in the world. By the way, do you know an Alan & Rebecca Call in Redding? I got something from them today, and wanted to know if it was at your prompting. > >Bear in mind that the model is >>a bit younger than you, but I did >>feel your influence in my dreams last >>night. Did you send me any mental >>pictures on purpose, or were these >>pictures of my own making? > >I worked the football snack shack and was >dead tired. I tried to send a visual image >of a glass snow scene ball and tried to >find my copy of the movie Robin Hood to >load some visual scenery pictures, but my >concentration was unfocussed. I went to bed >and curled up snuggling a side pillow (as >I occassinally do for comforting.) I can't >remember my dreams of last night. I forgot them the moment I woke up, but then I asked for help remembering, and the memory returned: I was wearing a ring upside down on the wrong hand. A woman's voice explained the right way, and then everything was ok. The dream ended there. > >This is >>a reality check for me. > >Also, I am >>probing you about your taste in >>clothes. > >My figure is long-wasited and I have been >well "endowed by my creater." I do best >in "tailored" clothes that move in rythm >with the body. (I took ballet when I was >small.) I don't like frilly things with >lots of ruffles, but lace is good. I >wear jeans and tight fitting tee shirts or >sweatshirts for casual wear. I wear long >skirts and sweaters for work. I hang around >the house in sweatpants and sweatshirts or >shorts and tee shirts. I sleep in a short >belly button tee shirt or in the nude. I >have a full wardrobe of "teddies" in a drawer >and a full box of business suits in the attic. > >What do you wear? Usually nothing, or underwear and a T-shirt if I am cold. > >You will find that I am >>a rather direct person, so you should >>not be afraid to say that you do not >>like something. Process of elimination >>is very very effective, even though >>it does take extra time. We have lots >>of time, Marcia: you were conceived >>into eternal life, you know. >> >I am, by nature, I believe, very direct also. >I have found most people are taken aback by >this. Especially, in male/female relationships >it can get real wierd, when you bang pots and pans >in the kitchen to indicate your mad, etc.) Did you see "Dirty Rotten Scoundrels"? Steve Martin has a scene where he is this infantile adult locked in a big playroom, and when Michael Caine arrives with his next "victim", Ruprict must bang on the drums for her. It is hilarious. > >>> >>>>Later, okay? >>>> >OK >>>>/s/ Paul Mitchell >>> >>>Signing off till later to get down to >>>swabbing the home decks. >> >>I love it when everything >>is squeeky clean. I am not >>exactly meticulous about these >>things, but I do enjoy a long >>hot shower, after doing laundry, >>sheets, towels, then a careful >>shave, and everything takes >>on a completely different feel. >>It's a little bit of heaven to >>know that nothing is then off-limits >>to the gentle touch of all hands. >> >Afraid you have a creative researcher on >this side. Piles of books and articles >stacked. Do housework when it gets so >bad that I feel guilty. >>> >>>Mar >><snip> >>>> >>>PS: Sorry about tardiness of response. My local server >>>must be swamped. I keep getting a Cause "time out" on >>>Eusora and Netscape won't connect. I'll keep trying >>>periodically. >>>MHA >> >>I am still trying to find time to get >>back to your previous email. Will you >>mind if I take some time later to go >>through it carefully, and give you >>feedback? I will try to be as loving >>and constructive as I can, with the >>hopes of helping you see how you were >>unnecessarily hard on yourself. > >OK - Take your time. I know you >will ccome back. > >Guess I was self anal-izing. > >>I am standing by. >> >>/s/ Paul Mitchell > >Mar >>=========================================================== >>Paul Andrew, Mitchell, B.A., M.S.: pmitch@primenet.com >>ship to: c/o 2509 N. Campbell, #1776, Tucson, Arizona state >>=========================================================== >> >> >> > >
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